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I have a similar story.....Right after our wedding in
1968 we made a mad dash for our hidden car which was
parked several blocks from the church....As I opened
the trunk to toss in our clothes, my brand new bride
noticed my Les Paul case in the trunk...."What do you
plan to do with that?" She asked.......PLAY IT! was my
reply, was then and .......still is 37 years
later....and oh, here's an idea for you guys, Over
the years I learned that if I bought all my guitars
the same color (white), she could never really tell
when I brought home a new one.........true story, and
it works! eddie k
--- bruce duncan <> wrote:
> WR,
>
> When it comes to domestic relationships, if the
> female part is obsessed with controlling the male
> part, to the point of becoming a "dream killer",
> I've always held that it is the male part's job to
> rectify the situation, and that Outside Interference
> would be unwelcome at best, and at worst, could
> precipitate real psycho behavior. If a man puts up
> with, excuses and accomodates "bad behavior" from a
> woman, he is ultimately going to end up with ZERO
> interests outside the relationship, and with ZERO
> friends with whom he could share such interests.
> It sucks, but it's HIS decision, NOT the band's.
>
> This particular bass player was married to an older,
> very dominant, "high maintenance" woman, and he
> seemed to be perfectly happy being completely
> submissive and subservient to her. We could have
> tried to "educate" him to the fatal mistake he was
> making, but we deemed it not worth the effort, as
> our words would have fallen on completely deaf ears.
>
> So, we took the low-conflict route, and after he'd
> stood us up the third time on a scheduled rehearsal,
> we recruited and found a better, more reliable bass
> player. Just look at all the Surf Bands that have
> lost personnel due to the demands of their
> marriages. One would think that involvement in a
> part-time band project could happily coexist with
> marital commitments, but unfortunately, many times,
> the women turn it into a "band vs. marriage" kind of
> equation. My wife also tried to "pussy-whip" me
> early in the days of our band.
>
> My response?
>
> "Honey, I haven't changed one iota since we got
> together. I told you numerous times how important
> music is in my life. When we moved in together, I
> took you on a tour of the house, and showed you
> where all the exit doors are. They're still in the
> same places they were then. I repeat what I told
> you at that time: "If you ever feel that you are
> not in the right place, being with me, I want you to
> use one of those doors to leave. I'm not your jail
> warden, and I have no wish for you to be here
> against your wishes. If my pursuit of playing music
> in a band is so unpleasant to you, I don't want you
> to be unhappy - Please do us both a kindness and
> leave, if you must. But, if you choose to stay,
> then understand, I AM NOT GIVING UP THIS ACTIVITY,
> not today, not next week, not next year."
>
> In the nearly 7 years the band has existed, I've
> only had to deliver this spiel twice, and she's
> still here, and still tells me she loves me several
> times a day! I just wish other guys had the guts to
> stand up for what's important to them, rather than
> becoming whores for you-know-what!
>
> Bruce D
>
> mono_tones_1 <> wrote:
> --- In , bruce duncan
> <wetreverb@y...>
> wrote:
>
> His wife gave him no end of grief over coming to
> band rehearsals, so
> ultimately we had to replace him,
>
>
> bruce, didn't you mean "so ultimately we had to
> replace her" ?
>
>
> sorry couldn't resist ;-)
>
> WR
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> the years I learned that if I bought all my guitars
> the same color (white), she could never really tell
> when I brought home a new one.........true story, and
> it works! eddie k
>
>
THIS ALSO HAPPENS WHEN GUYS BUY SURFBOARDS FROM MY STORE, SAME COLOR,
SHE'LL NEVER KNOW...carol
that's funny!...the "same color" scam...man, the things
people go through in this world, it never ceases to
surprise me.
-dp
(ps: carol: is your surf shop located on the west coast or
east coast?...or hawaii?)
> THIS ALSO HAPPENS WHEN GUYS BUY SURFBOARDS FROM MY STORE,
> SAME COLOR,
> SHE'LL NEVER KNOW...carol
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> (ps: carol: is your surf shop located on the west coast or
> east coast?...or hawaii?)
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>MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE HAD A SURF SHOP HERE ON THE OUTER BANKS OF
NORTH CAROLINA FOR 30 YEARS..carol
