I have been playing with a surf band for about 2 years now, it's my first band. The guys I play with are great, they're all a good 10 to 15 years older than me, and have a great deal of gigging and playing experience, which makes my life easier. I love playing guitar, love jamming with the guys and learning new things, but I have found no love for actually playing live. Is this just a lack of experience issue; are there others out there who love playing, but don't like playing gigs? Looking for some sagely advice.
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Joined: Feb 14, 2007 Posts: 18 washington, the state. |
Posted on Mar 07 2008 02:56 PM
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Joined: Feb 23, 2007 Posts: 1650 Santa Rosa, CA 
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Posted on Mar 07 2008 03:33 PM
Welcome Luke! Give it some time. After a few good gigs with an appreciative audience, you'll feel much better about it... — |
Joined: Mar 17, 2007 Posts: 839 United Kingdom
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Posted on Mar 07 2008 03:33 PM
What don't you like about it? —http://www.myspace.com/thepashuns Youth and enthusiasm are no match for age and treachery. |
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Joined: Feb 14, 2007 Posts: 18 washington, the state. |
Posted on Mar 07 2008 03:41 PM
Firstly, I'm kind of shy, and don't like being in the limelight so to speak. I also find the whole night puts a greater level of stress on me. I'm so concerned about playing well that I never get into a comfortable groove. Lastly, this is not meant to be arrogant, but I have real difficulty with people coming up and talking about how well we played. It is very counter intuitive to what is my general humble nature. |
Joined: Feb 27, 2006 Posts: 1070 Ventura County, Calif.
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Posted on Mar 07 2008 04:22 PM
Hi Luke, Be careful following the masses. Sometimes the "M" is silent........................... |
Joined: Jul 10, 2007 Posts: 916 San Pablo, CA
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Posted on Mar 07 2008 08:47 PM
ya i used to get stage fright too, i used to play with the school band and mann..tha was horrible... i also didnt know what to do when people came up to me and started telling me how well we played but now its like mann it makes me want to play even more! we've done like 3 or 4 real gigs and its slowly but surely getting better, my drummer in the other hand is just the opposite since he's never played live before, he'll play and wont even look at us or the audience and just look down when he's playing. but yeah i wuld say it will go away in time but im not sure since i still have a litle bit of it . -Zanti Instagram: |
Joined: Feb 26, 2006 Posts: 12159 Seattle
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Posted on Mar 07 2008 08:54 PM
You should learn to make yourself scarce after a gig. Start packing up right away, don't make eye contact, take gear to the van afterwards. I hate talking to people I don't know at shows. Luckily I rarely have to speak to them. |
Joined: Feb 27, 2006 Posts: 25538 Anaheim(So.Cal.)U.S.A.
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Posted on Mar 07 2008 09:10 PM
avoid contact with all other human beings in life at all cost. Jeff(bigtikidude) —Jeff(bigtikidude) |
Joined: Feb 01, 2007 Posts: 308 Ellicott City, Maryland |
Posted on Mar 07 2008 10:05 PM
I get terrible stage fright, esp with playing a lead part. My hands get too shaky. After playing live a lot you learn to do it, but that doesn't mean you won't be nervous. Playing rhythm is much easier for me. Try playing some parties or gigs where you know you will have some relaxed fun, unless you are a seriously professional band where you need paying gigs with larger audiences. |
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Joined: Feb 27, 2006 Posts: 1070 Ventura County, Calif.
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Posted on Mar 07 2008 10:07 PM
Play nice boys. Be careful following the masses. Sometimes the "M" is silent........................... |
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Joined: Feb 26, 2006 Posts: 12159 Seattle
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Posted on Mar 07 2008 10:56 PM
The trick is to avoid them until you can get a judge of character and then you can decide if they are someone you want to talk to or hang out with. |
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Joined: Feb 14, 2007 Posts: 18 washington, the state. |
Posted on Mar 07 2008 11:09 PM
This really sums it up. I tend to contain my nerves during the lead parts; I shake on the inside, and do enjoy the songs where I play rhythm. Friends say I look rather relaxed when I play, I'm sure they're lying but I appreciate it. Part of my stress comes from playing with guys who are better than me; the other lead guitarist was in his first band before I was born that coupled with the fact that people payed to listen to us play. |
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Joined: Feb 27, 2006 Posts: 1070 Ventura County, Calif.
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Posted on Mar 07 2008 11:09 PM
I'm gonna assume your kiddin' Jake. Especially from someone who is just gettin' over cancer . Anybody who comes to one of your shows is worthy to hang out with. Anyone. Be careful following the masses. Sometimes the "M" is silent........................... |
Joined: Mar 02, 2006 Posts: 1778 Star, Idaho. Formerly lived in Surf City USA.
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Posted on Mar 07 2008 11:12 PM
I say a big group man hug for Jake next time he is Surf City. |
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Joined: Feb 26, 2006 Posts: 12159 Seattle
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Posted on Mar 07 2008 11:26 PM
NOOOOOOO!!!! I get so uncomfy in crowded groups where there are strange people. |
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Joined: Jul 10, 2007 Posts: 916 San Pablo, CA
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Posted on Mar 07 2008 11:34 PM
and like maybe u should like watch this and like yeah http://youtube.com/watch?v=OSBluVeIVXA —-Zanti Instagram: |
Joined: Mar 02, 2006 Posts: 11046 Berkeley, CA
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Posted on Mar 08 2008 12:03 AM
Re: your audience coming up after the show. A lesson many of us learn in life as we get older is that compliments are mostly about the person giving them, not the person receiving them. They're not doing you a favor complimenting you, you're doing them the favor of allowing them to talk to you. Understand? That's why people always say good things no matter how much you suck. Because they like the feeling of saying something nice to someone who does what they wish they could do, or they can do it and empathize with you. The compliments to take seriously are the unsolicited ones from your peers (like here on SG101). Danny Snyder Playing keys and guitar with Combo Tezeta Formerly a guitarist in The TomorrowMen and Meshugga Beach Party Latest surf project - Now That's What I Call SURF |
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Joined: Mar 02, 2006 Posts: 1778 Star, Idaho. Formerly lived in Surf City USA.
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Posted on Mar 08 2008 12:06 AM
Danny, JUst for the record, when MBP played Surf City, you guys DID NOT suck... Any compliments were well deserved. Dig? |
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Joined: Feb 26, 2006 Posts: 12159 Seattle
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Posted on Mar 08 2008 12:08 AM
The problem is when the person is rather drunk and is being really creepy and standing way too close. |
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Joined: Mar 02, 2006 Posts: 1778 Star, Idaho. Formerly lived in Surf City USA.
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Posted on Mar 08 2008 12:13 AM
Yes, that can be uncomfortable. Nothing like an overly friendly drunk. |
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